Well, have we had enough of the shiftstorm without the "f" yet? Just remember, mankind is in a process and this process is part of it. Got it? LOL.
I decided today that I wanted to share some things about the work from my point of view. Things that I learn on a regular basis because of the work I do. Some of it is tricky. Some of it is ugly. But alot of it is downright beautiful.
When I open a session, I explain to people the difference between a Psychic and a Medium. A Psychic reads energy. More importantly, human energy. We see things that have happened to someone, that are happening to someone, and things that I always say could possibly happen. The work is not an exact science, and I really try to own the human, imperfect, part of the work. I firmly believe that none of us has all the answers, nor should we, for that would take the joy and surprise of this life away. And we wouldn't want to do that now, would we?
Anyways, when it comes to the Psychic work, I ALWAYS let people know two things:
1) If you want to want to know something, ask.
2) If you don't want to know something, DON'T ask.
And I mean that. If you are not prepared to hear the answer, don't even bother asking. Here is a shining example of what this looks like. Due to the sensitive nature of the session, I am going to keep it extremely vague. (And yes, I ALWAYS ask for permission to share in this manner) Someone had come to sit with me and had never been to a Psychic before, never mind a Medium. They had heard good things through a friend's attendance at an event, and they thought they could give this a try. They came with a type of situation that I don't like to deal with and find that it isn't really in my mandate here to do so. And, when asked a question, I gave an answer to which the response was, "Well, I didn't want to hear that." It was one of the most frustrating sessions I had been in for awhile and smack dab in the middle of Merc Retro (a PRIME example of what this energetic time will do). So, after much deliberation I actually didn't charge them and explained that in the world of what she was asking for help with, I actually am not good at in the terms of talents Psychics may have. I also referred them to a colleague and, as fate would have it, our experienced sessions were the exact same experience and yes, we had permission to compare notes AFTER the fact.
And with that said, I say once again, "If you don't want to know. DON'T ASK!" I am not one of those Psychics that pretends to be one giving airy fairy readings telling people what they want to hear. I am here to get some work done and, with God willing, help others to accomplish their work in this lifetime too. So we will get absolutely nowhere if you aren't open to the work.
Which brings me to my next awareness for all of you. I get that, when you have never been seen by a Psychic Medium before, you never know what to expect, but guess what?? Neither do I. It is why I say on my website under what to expect:
1) Expect the Unexpected.
I can be just as nervous as you and, in fact, I would worry if I wasn't a little anxious each time. I let people know that it is never my intention to hurt or harm, I just never know where a session is going to go and what is going to be said. I set an intention of the greatest and highest good being revealed for the sake of the soul that I am sitting with, draw in my care team and the loved ones of the person I will be sitting with, and get to work.
About the work. It is okay to be skeptical! Truly. I always joke that even I'm skeptical of the work, ha ha ha. However, don't let skepticism get in the way of a bit of receptivity, because a strong dose of skepticism will get in the way. It's like a brick wall is placed in front of me. And, oh yeah, if you don't want me to see something I won't you know. Truly. I get a black void or a brick wall as a "no", so your secret is safe with me because I won't be able to see it, lol. However, I have blown a few deep dark downs before in my own personal world, so the Universe lets me see what is going on in my backyard, lol. For that I am grateful because it keeps my loved ones safe. So bring that inner skeptic, but give him a chance to accept something that may be coming through.
And listen, the work isn't perfect, so don't let a "miss" put up a block. Sometimes it takes a bit to warm up due to nerves of the person I am sitting with, or even my own, so just allow the process to unfold. I will get to the good stuff. The stuff that I can't possibly know that let's you know that I truly have one of your loved ones. So don't be fooled by a vague "Medium", a real Medium should give you the goods. Things they can't possibly know and the only way they could know is because they have a loved one in Spirit. Yours. And that is truly amazing.
I cannot tell you how many times I have had the honor of creating a bond between Here and There through using my abilities to create an awareness. An awareness that, if we are truly open to it, will shift our soul forever and move us forward like never before.
So, open your mind, open your heart, and allow yourself to experience your loved ones. It doesn't take me to do so. Here's what you can do:
1) Ask for a specific sign. A few months after my dad passed, I decided I needed a good indicator he was around. I picked a song by Pink and told my dad to have it playing as I walked into a store or turned on a radio. Sure enough, he still does that for me. So ask!
2) Trust what you see or hear. If you hear a song and a loved one gone pops into your head, know that they are there! For as you think of them they are thinking of you. If you see a dime on the ground and you immediately think of your grandpa, trust that it's from your grandpa! We all want to second guess these things, so try believing. You will not believe what happens in your world. You begin to open up, wake up, and that is a FANTASTIC thing!
3) Know that if you dream of a loved one gone from this world and onto the next, TRUST that that is a visit. They may not talk, but know that it is them, and they have come to let you know that they are around.
What an awesome world!
Thursday, 26 June 2014
Monday, 16 June 2014
The Medium Heeds Her Own Messages
Are we having fun yet?! Because just when we thought we were out of the energetic woods, the planets and stars lined up to hand us just one more whallop. Welcome to Mercury Retrograde. Two down, and one more to go for this year. Here is what Merc Retro handed me last week. It had me digging deep and losing my cool by last night. But that's okay because EVERYTHING needed to happen.
On June 11th, 2014, exactly one month before her 96th birthday, my paternal grandmother was called Home. Her passing shook me harder than I imagined, but for reasons so much bigger than being death itself.
It would serve as no irony that as my mom was signing papers for the sale of our family home of 40 years, my grandmother lay on her deathbed and transitioned very shortly after the bulk of the paperwork was done. Four husbands and two sons have gone on before her and it was about time the good Lord came for her. So, as we all moved forward, grandma did too.
However, in that moment, I felt utterly left behind. My grandmother was being reunited with my dad, and I got jealous and homesick. Me? A Medium? Jealous and homesick? OF COURSE! I'm human first and foremost. And the woman through whose family came my ability was gone. The woman that let me know I wasn't the only one in the family to "see" things. Gone. And, worst of all? I did NOT go to see her while I was in Kamloops. So, enter the Medium with remorse and regret and now in need of heeding her own messages.
So I will console myself in words I speak so often to so many, because I know in my heart of hearts, I was not supposed to be there and things unfolded exactly as they should. My grandmother hasn't known who anyone is for a very, VERY long time. She had been lying bedridden more often than not the last five years and I was the one who took charge of visits after dad passed. The last three years watching her reduced to a shell hurt to watch. It came to a point where I couldn't bear to watch any longer. MY stuff. MY stuff.
It meant I stopped going and missed an opportunity for "one last moment" before her passing. The stuff that hurts us so much after people pass. The "shoulda's". Well. I am not going to "should" on myself for this one. My grandmother wouldn't want me to. In fact, I know exactly what she would say.
"I know you loved me. I know you came to see me. I know why you stopped. And it is ALL okay."
Our loved ones in Spirit do not want us to hang onto guilt forever. If they could, they would take it all away instantly. It is the stuff that hurts us the most. And that is something that none of Them wish for Us. They wish nothing but for us to move forward, putting a BandAid over the hole in our heart they leave, and begin to live for them, knowing they are watching over, guiding, and guarding us.
When death comes, we can keep ourselves in the shoulda's, or we can begin to see things as unfolding the way they were supposed to.
My wish?
For each and every one of us to forgive ourselves for the things we think we "shoulda" or "coulda" done, leave the guilt behind, and embrace a future that unfolds with every single person that has returned Home watching over us. Exactly as it is meant to be.
On June 11th, 2014, exactly one month before her 96th birthday, my paternal grandmother was called Home. Her passing shook me harder than I imagined, but for reasons so much bigger than being death itself.
It would serve as no irony that as my mom was signing papers for the sale of our family home of 40 years, my grandmother lay on her deathbed and transitioned very shortly after the bulk of the paperwork was done. Four husbands and two sons have gone on before her and it was about time the good Lord came for her. So, as we all moved forward, grandma did too.
However, in that moment, I felt utterly left behind. My grandmother was being reunited with my dad, and I got jealous and homesick. Me? A Medium? Jealous and homesick? OF COURSE! I'm human first and foremost. And the woman through whose family came my ability was gone. The woman that let me know I wasn't the only one in the family to "see" things. Gone. And, worst of all? I did NOT go to see her while I was in Kamloops. So, enter the Medium with remorse and regret and now in need of heeding her own messages.
So I will console myself in words I speak so often to so many, because I know in my heart of hearts, I was not supposed to be there and things unfolded exactly as they should. My grandmother hasn't known who anyone is for a very, VERY long time. She had been lying bedridden more often than not the last five years and I was the one who took charge of visits after dad passed. The last three years watching her reduced to a shell hurt to watch. It came to a point where I couldn't bear to watch any longer. MY stuff. MY stuff.
It meant I stopped going and missed an opportunity for "one last moment" before her passing. The stuff that hurts us so much after people pass. The "shoulda's". Well. I am not going to "should" on myself for this one. My grandmother wouldn't want me to. In fact, I know exactly what she would say.
"I know you loved me. I know you came to see me. I know why you stopped. And it is ALL okay."
Our loved ones in Spirit do not want us to hang onto guilt forever. If they could, they would take it all away instantly. It is the stuff that hurts us the most. And that is something that none of Them wish for Us. They wish nothing but for us to move forward, putting a BandAid over the hole in our heart they leave, and begin to live for them, knowing they are watching over, guiding, and guarding us.
When death comes, we can keep ourselves in the shoulda's, or we can begin to see things as unfolding the way they were supposed to.
My wish?
For each and every one of us to forgive ourselves for the things we think we "shoulda" or "coulda" done, leave the guilt behind, and embrace a future that unfolds with every single person that has returned Home watching over us. Exactly as it is meant to be.
Wednesday, 2 April 2014
Let the Blogging Spree Commence
It is so weird (not really) that I would find myself once again sitting down to the computer, hands at the keyboard, being pushed by Spirit to write. Not sure what's up with that, but hey! I'll take it!
When it comes to my blogging, I've noticed it's been sporadic. However, I always take comfort that when it is "time" it happens. My blogs are about Spirit. Mine. My adventures with them, and the growth that is ever continuing in my life, and I hope yours.
So let's talk about Divine Timing. Did you know that everything happens exactly when it is supposed to? Did you know that we can actually energetically block Divine Timing despite the fact that everything happens when it is supposed to? Does that sound really weird?
"But wait Donna, if everything happens at Divine Timing, how can we block it?". Well, let's use my my journeys as an example. And then I will use the journey of clients I have been encountering.
For those of you that have read previous blogs, last year found myself a crumpled mess on the floor February of 2013, after two months of having not one single client come through the door. WTF???? My career had been slowly gathering speed when all of a sudden, my clients were gone. Enter the crumpled mess on the floor, sobbing her eyes out, wondering what the Hell I had done to create this. It's called micro-managing, and I had been handed one of the greatest lessons when it comes to the Universe, in that moment in time.
You see, I had my career all planned out, TV was going to happen, I was going to see a massive amount of clients because the work is so important to me, and I was going to do this, this, this, and this......................WHAM! The screeching halt occurred. You see, we truly don't have control over anything but our choices and our actions, and all we have to do is take one step in that direction. I mean, I work every day whether I am seeing clients or not, but I was telling the Universe what my career was going to look like..............wrong! Therefore, I was micro-managing, and therefore the Universe went............URCH!!!! A screeching stop! Time to tune Donna up.
So, as I lay on the floor, tears rolling down my face, I turned my head to the sky and asked, "What?", "What am I not getting?". And then I heard it............off in the distance.......'Surrender'. "Surrender???? What do you mean surrender? I have poured my heart and soul into my work, came out of the Spiritual Closet with a bang in 2010, no longer being afraid to say, 'I See Dead People', and this is where I end up???!! Really??!!"
"Yes Donna, really. You see, WE'RE in charge of your career and it is time you put your total trust in us in all you do, otherwise it isn't going to work out the way you hope." And wham, the Universal sledgehammer hit me up side the head and I began to sob even more. A recognition so deep I could hardly stand it. I had gotten in the road of all that was waiting for me, if, and only IF, I surrendered to their hands the steering wheel of life. From that moment forward my life changed. I started to view the quiet times as the calm before the storm and an opportunity to rest. I began to FEEL more and recognize and truly take into my soul, that the Universe, and my Care Team (we all have one), truly had me in their care and keeping.
Thus the truest of Divine Timing. The block which created the lesson which served a purpose that happened in Divine Timing. EXACTLY when I needed it. The floodgates opened and here I sit today in the most joyful experience of my life. At the seat of my soul, doing what I love, and knowing peace like I have never known before. It is what I wish for each and every one of you.
Enter a few clients I have been working with, super attached to finding their partner, and at the center of their wish list a specific person. Specific people which have switched given different occasions. Nothing like ATTACHMENT to get in the road. However, these attachments, these specifics, house the lesson. If we are continually seeking one specific person, thing or place, we interfere with what is waiting for us. Plain and simple. So it's no wonder these clients aren't finding anyone. And, while they come to see me to work these things through, the only good I am doing them is reminding them to 'let go and let God'. We have to TRUST that the Universe has someone waiting, and while we might not know what they look like, we can imagine ourselves holding hands with someone, seeing the hands only and that, in Divine Timing, someone will appear that we wish for.
Ours is to imagine 'someone' or 'something' in a generic sense, and allow the Universe to handle the details. If we tell the Universe exactly what we are looking for we are micro-managing. Micro-managing NEVER works. Period.
So I ask you, are you micro-managing? We are all guilty of it. I am merely the reflection of what it is your soul may be seeking. We are all mirrors for each other. But only YOU can be the true reflection.
So, march yourself over to your mirror and ask, "Am I micro-managing?". For if you are, imagine your hands reaching out and handing over to bigger hands and HANDING IT OVER!
It is their job, not yours, to guide us through our wishes. Truly let it go.
In that moment, the Universe begins to drop in what it is your heart desires!
When it comes to my blogging, I've noticed it's been sporadic. However, I always take comfort that when it is "time" it happens. My blogs are about Spirit. Mine. My adventures with them, and the growth that is ever continuing in my life, and I hope yours.
So let's talk about Divine Timing. Did you know that everything happens exactly when it is supposed to? Did you know that we can actually energetically block Divine Timing despite the fact that everything happens when it is supposed to? Does that sound really weird?
"But wait Donna, if everything happens at Divine Timing, how can we block it?". Well, let's use my my journeys as an example. And then I will use the journey of clients I have been encountering.
For those of you that have read previous blogs, last year found myself a crumpled mess on the floor February of 2013, after two months of having not one single client come through the door. WTF???? My career had been slowly gathering speed when all of a sudden, my clients were gone. Enter the crumpled mess on the floor, sobbing her eyes out, wondering what the Hell I had done to create this. It's called micro-managing, and I had been handed one of the greatest lessons when it comes to the Universe, in that moment in time.
You see, I had my career all planned out, TV was going to happen, I was going to see a massive amount of clients because the work is so important to me, and I was going to do this, this, this, and this......................WHAM! The screeching halt occurred. You see, we truly don't have control over anything but our choices and our actions, and all we have to do is take one step in that direction. I mean, I work every day whether I am seeing clients or not, but I was telling the Universe what my career was going to look like..............wrong! Therefore, I was micro-managing, and therefore the Universe went............URCH!!!! A screeching stop! Time to tune Donna up.
So, as I lay on the floor, tears rolling down my face, I turned my head to the sky and asked, "What?", "What am I not getting?". And then I heard it............off in the distance.......'Surrender'. "Surrender???? What do you mean surrender? I have poured my heart and soul into my work, came out of the Spiritual Closet with a bang in 2010, no longer being afraid to say, 'I See Dead People', and this is where I end up???!! Really??!!"
"Yes Donna, really. You see, WE'RE in charge of your career and it is time you put your total trust in us in all you do, otherwise it isn't going to work out the way you hope." And wham, the Universal sledgehammer hit me up side the head and I began to sob even more. A recognition so deep I could hardly stand it. I had gotten in the road of all that was waiting for me, if, and only IF, I surrendered to their hands the steering wheel of life. From that moment forward my life changed. I started to view the quiet times as the calm before the storm and an opportunity to rest. I began to FEEL more and recognize and truly take into my soul, that the Universe, and my Care Team (we all have one), truly had me in their care and keeping.
Thus the truest of Divine Timing. The block which created the lesson which served a purpose that happened in Divine Timing. EXACTLY when I needed it. The floodgates opened and here I sit today in the most joyful experience of my life. At the seat of my soul, doing what I love, and knowing peace like I have never known before. It is what I wish for each and every one of you.
Enter a few clients I have been working with, super attached to finding their partner, and at the center of their wish list a specific person. Specific people which have switched given different occasions. Nothing like ATTACHMENT to get in the road. However, these attachments, these specifics, house the lesson. If we are continually seeking one specific person, thing or place, we interfere with what is waiting for us. Plain and simple. So it's no wonder these clients aren't finding anyone. And, while they come to see me to work these things through, the only good I am doing them is reminding them to 'let go and let God'. We have to TRUST that the Universe has someone waiting, and while we might not know what they look like, we can imagine ourselves holding hands with someone, seeing the hands only and that, in Divine Timing, someone will appear that we wish for.
Ours is to imagine 'someone' or 'something' in a generic sense, and allow the Universe to handle the details. If we tell the Universe exactly what we are looking for we are micro-managing. Micro-managing NEVER works. Period.
So I ask you, are you micro-managing? We are all guilty of it. I am merely the reflection of what it is your soul may be seeking. We are all mirrors for each other. But only YOU can be the true reflection.
So, march yourself over to your mirror and ask, "Am I micro-managing?". For if you are, imagine your hands reaching out and handing over to bigger hands and HANDING IT OVER!
It is their job, not yours, to guide us through our wishes. Truly let it go.
In that moment, the Universe begins to drop in what it is your heart desires!
Tuesday, 1 April 2014
On Death and Dying
Yesterday I found out that a soul that had been a very important part of my life passed away doing what she loved. It was a shock and it stung, but I carried on with my day of clients, knowing that I would grieve throughout, and that messages from Spirit would help soothe me along the way.
I am a firm believer that in certain situations, "the show must go on". This soul brought so much laughter and friendship into my life, that the thought of not being able to interact with her on Facebook anymore and see her adventures left my heart in a bit of a broken space. We shared a time in my life where "balls to the wall" applied and I found myself hurtling out of an airplane with a parachute on my back............82 TIMES! She and one other welcomed me with open arms (Thanks Hoobajoob!) into a male dominated sport. We shared good times, we shared crazy times, and her moving onto the world of coaching in Skydiving reached so many others.
Her Facebook page lit up with pictures and stories and heartfelt prayers and condolences from all over the world, that's how far her reach was!
Enter Super Soul Sunday with Oprah and Mr. Gary Zukav.
During this Super Soul session, Oprah highlighted moments in her 25 years of working with Gary Zukav, and one moment stood out and made me cry so hard in recognition of something I believe to be vitally important in all the grieving we could ever do on this planet. It was a shift. And there is ALWAYS a gift in any shift that we make that sits at the seat of our soul.
In this highlight, Oprah shared a moment on television some time ago where she and Mr. Zukav were conversing with a family where twins entered the world, and one twin left after 48 hours of life. Their grief was overwhelming. And, I must insert here that everyone grieves differently, that there is no "right or wrong" to grief, but that I believe there comes a time and place to settle a loss into a different heartspace in our soul. Losing a child does not feel natural. Whether we have had two months in utero or 10 years in the world, it sucks, and there is no two ways about it.
However, Mr. Zukav brought a different view to death of anyone, including children, that may help to change any of our approaches to grief at any moment. Our souls have a contract (which I have always stated and believed). We never know when that contract ends or how. But what we would hope to remember when we are ready, is to know that their time on this planet was a gift. They took the time to be with us, for whatever length was written into their soul chart, and then they had to leave the physical world. In their journey lies all sorts of gifts. Gifts to live more, laugh more, and love even harder while we are here on this planet.
Our goal, I feel (my opinion only), is to truly get to a spot where we can say thank you for all that you gifted me and not be so tortured by the loss. It is not to say the sting doesn't show up once in awhile, or that tears will never be shed again, but it is about recognizing all that the soul gifted us, and that they merely changed form. They truly never leave us. And, given the work that I do, I know that to be absolute truth in my life.
So, enter a space today, where the shock has worn off a little bit more, the grief feels a little less. All because of the words of Gary Zukav. And I am grateful.
My friend, like any of us, had a contract. Her contract ended exactly when it was supposed to and, when the physical space of loss decreases (and for some even now), anyone attached to this soul's life are going to recognize the gifts she left the world.
And yes, I shift in my grieving process a bit faster than others because of the work I do, and it's not to say I am not going to cry for myself and even more so for others that were extremely close to her in this stage of her life, but Mr. Zukav's words around the gifts received from others while here, were almost an instant shift for me.
This person left me gifts, and here is what they are at this stage of the game:
1) This life is meant to be lived to the fullest.
2) Death of the physical shell makes me appreciate my life even more. I could not be here and I am. And for that I am grateful.
3) That people come into our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime, and each of them challenges us to grow, to love, and engage in meaningful conversation and learn valuable lessons.
4) Whether we are two minutes old or 102 we have been given the gift of coming down to this school called life, and every opportunity (easy or hard) has beautiful moments.
5) Smiles are infectious, and a kind word soothing. My friend always had a kind word and infectious smile that made so many feel welcome. (And it would come as 'no coincidence' that "Smile" is playing in the background as I write this....."smile though your heart is breaking....smile when.......")
6) Love the life you life. And if you don't................change it!
7) Be the person you wish to see in the world.
The space of losing someone isn't easy. It hurts. But that hurt can be temporary (2 minutes, 5 years) IF you allow it to shift.
I can tell you from the work that I do, that our loved ones do not want us needlessly suffering from the loss of someone. In fact, they want us to live for them. They want us to be happy, they want us to absolve ourselves of the "shoulda, woulda, couldas", and they truly do want us to live, live, LIVE! For in those moments, they are right along side us going, "Hell Yeah!".
They want us to go on and live for others in our lives and more importantly ourselves! We have the right to a good life and soulful living. Death is part of life and it teaches us so much! To love harder, walk through doors of opportunity, and to live a life that suits us best!
Allow those we lose to give us the gifts they wish for us to receive! (as per Gary Zukav)
Live happy!
Play hard!
Leave doing what you love!
This life is meant to be lived! So get out there and live it! And, in that moment, know that your loved ones in Spirit are right there with you, enjoying every moment you choose to embrace!
I am a firm believer that in certain situations, "the show must go on". This soul brought so much laughter and friendship into my life, that the thought of not being able to interact with her on Facebook anymore and see her adventures left my heart in a bit of a broken space. We shared a time in my life where "balls to the wall" applied and I found myself hurtling out of an airplane with a parachute on my back............82 TIMES! She and one other welcomed me with open arms (Thanks Hoobajoob!) into a male dominated sport. We shared good times, we shared crazy times, and her moving onto the world of coaching in Skydiving reached so many others.
Her Facebook page lit up with pictures and stories and heartfelt prayers and condolences from all over the world, that's how far her reach was!
Enter Super Soul Sunday with Oprah and Mr. Gary Zukav.
During this Super Soul session, Oprah highlighted moments in her 25 years of working with Gary Zukav, and one moment stood out and made me cry so hard in recognition of something I believe to be vitally important in all the grieving we could ever do on this planet. It was a shift. And there is ALWAYS a gift in any shift that we make that sits at the seat of our soul.
In this highlight, Oprah shared a moment on television some time ago where she and Mr. Zukav were conversing with a family where twins entered the world, and one twin left after 48 hours of life. Their grief was overwhelming. And, I must insert here that everyone grieves differently, that there is no "right or wrong" to grief, but that I believe there comes a time and place to settle a loss into a different heartspace in our soul. Losing a child does not feel natural. Whether we have had two months in utero or 10 years in the world, it sucks, and there is no two ways about it.
However, Mr. Zukav brought a different view to death of anyone, including children, that may help to change any of our approaches to grief at any moment. Our souls have a contract (which I have always stated and believed). We never know when that contract ends or how. But what we would hope to remember when we are ready, is to know that their time on this planet was a gift. They took the time to be with us, for whatever length was written into their soul chart, and then they had to leave the physical world. In their journey lies all sorts of gifts. Gifts to live more, laugh more, and love even harder while we are here on this planet.
Our goal, I feel (my opinion only), is to truly get to a spot where we can say thank you for all that you gifted me and not be so tortured by the loss. It is not to say the sting doesn't show up once in awhile, or that tears will never be shed again, but it is about recognizing all that the soul gifted us, and that they merely changed form. They truly never leave us. And, given the work that I do, I know that to be absolute truth in my life.
So, enter a space today, where the shock has worn off a little bit more, the grief feels a little less. All because of the words of Gary Zukav. And I am grateful.
My friend, like any of us, had a contract. Her contract ended exactly when it was supposed to and, when the physical space of loss decreases (and for some even now), anyone attached to this soul's life are going to recognize the gifts she left the world.
And yes, I shift in my grieving process a bit faster than others because of the work I do, and it's not to say I am not going to cry for myself and even more so for others that were extremely close to her in this stage of her life, but Mr. Zukav's words around the gifts received from others while here, were almost an instant shift for me.
This person left me gifts, and here is what they are at this stage of the game:
1) This life is meant to be lived to the fullest.
2) Death of the physical shell makes me appreciate my life even more. I could not be here and I am. And for that I am grateful.
3) That people come into our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime, and each of them challenges us to grow, to love, and engage in meaningful conversation and learn valuable lessons.
4) Whether we are two minutes old or 102 we have been given the gift of coming down to this school called life, and every opportunity (easy or hard) has beautiful moments.
5) Smiles are infectious, and a kind word soothing. My friend always had a kind word and infectious smile that made so many feel welcome. (And it would come as 'no coincidence' that "Smile" is playing in the background as I write this....."smile though your heart is breaking....smile when.......")
6) Love the life you life. And if you don't................change it!
7) Be the person you wish to see in the world.
The space of losing someone isn't easy. It hurts. But that hurt can be temporary (2 minutes, 5 years) IF you allow it to shift.
I can tell you from the work that I do, that our loved ones do not want us needlessly suffering from the loss of someone. In fact, they want us to live for them. They want us to be happy, they want us to absolve ourselves of the "shoulda, woulda, couldas", and they truly do want us to live, live, LIVE! For in those moments, they are right along side us going, "Hell Yeah!".
They want us to go on and live for others in our lives and more importantly ourselves! We have the right to a good life and soulful living. Death is part of life and it teaches us so much! To love harder, walk through doors of opportunity, and to live a life that suits us best!
Allow those we lose to give us the gifts they wish for us to receive! (as per Gary Zukav)
Live happy!
Play hard!
Leave doing what you love!
This life is meant to be lived! So get out there and live it! And, in that moment, know that your loved ones in Spirit are right there with you, enjoying every moment you choose to embrace!
Friday, 28 March 2014
Times Fun When You're Having Flies
I have wanted to be committed to blogging, but my work truly has taken me away. So, here I sit, taking that time, to do something that I love to do. Write. I may not be good at it, but I believe this to be another form of channel for Spirit in my life, and I hope that this one finds you well.
My work has reached an almost frantic pace, and I keep receiving the "Balance Home and Career Life" card very frequently. I love, love, LOVE what I do, and therein can lie the problem. I love my family, I love my friends, but such peace like has never been known in my life truly comes from finally allowing myself to be who I truly am meant to become. ME. And a very strong component of "me" is my work.
I firmly believe that we are Spiritual Beings having a human experience and that our Spirit deserves to be nurtured and honored along our journey. That's where the true fun begins. You see, I believe this planet to be our school, and our goal is ascension. In my world, Ascension isn't about getting into Heaven, it is about becoming an evolved soul on this planet. Some of us are young to the journeys here, and some of us arrive practically ascended. The Old Souls. The Masters. But, I believe young souls can turn old quickly if we sit and learn our lessons. THAT is true Ascension to me.
I cannot tell you how many sessions I run these days, where people find themselves in a position of cutting away things that no longer serve, asking better of the people in our lives, and answering the stirrings of their soul. It is EXACTLY what the Universe is asking us to do at this stage of mankind's soulvolution. It is not about hating anyone because of how they behave, but recognizing we have changed so much and that that person's journey no longer resonates with us. We need to give ourselves permission to walk through "out with the old and in with the new". We also want to hold a space of asking the Universe to give that soul what it needs for healing. For I truly believe we can do that for others.
We also have to remember on this journey that this life is meant to be enJOYable! Finding the time to take that walk, sitting for tea with a friend, stopping to smell the roses. Thus, the need for my work to morph. I love my clients, but it has been time for some more variety, a bigger crowd, a different venue, etc. It truly helps keep it all, and me, fresh.
At the beginning of this year, I made an "In 2014 I will create..." list which ended up being 23 items at this stage (10 have shown up already!). Enter, "be careful what you wish for" because some of those items revolved around my work and the Universe has seen to drop some amazing things into my life with respect to those wishes. Within the last 72 hours I have found myself at the doorway to Television (stay tuned for the "Mountain Medium" coming this Fall to airwaves near you), and now hosting a 60-seat evening with Spirit which after two days of ticket sales is halfway sold out already! Plus I have "Pro-D" Day I am one of several guest speakers at, I have a retreat, and I have some travelling to do with this work. Phew!
Enter the "balance" card.
The days have flown by so quickly this year, that I really do have to honor the card I keep receiving. And, up until the past week or so, I really had this nice flow going of home and career, but this last little bit has been cray-cray and I continually get the "slow down" voice in my head. Enter incense, enter meditation, enter exercise between clients. That balance always keeps me present, and keeps me extremely grounded.
My home life is my "work" too (as it should be for all of us), but in order for any of us to be any good at what we do, we have to remember to honor ourselves, do what makes us feel like a kid again, and remember to laugh along this crazy trip called life!
So, love yourself first, take really good care of you, find that amazing balance between work and home, and walk into the flow of an amazing time. Where you are completely present, and enjoying some time not flying bye (and yes, I meant to spell it that way)!
My work has reached an almost frantic pace, and I keep receiving the "Balance Home and Career Life" card very frequently. I love, love, LOVE what I do, and therein can lie the problem. I love my family, I love my friends, but such peace like has never been known in my life truly comes from finally allowing myself to be who I truly am meant to become. ME. And a very strong component of "me" is my work.
I firmly believe that we are Spiritual Beings having a human experience and that our Spirit deserves to be nurtured and honored along our journey. That's where the true fun begins. You see, I believe this planet to be our school, and our goal is ascension. In my world, Ascension isn't about getting into Heaven, it is about becoming an evolved soul on this planet. Some of us are young to the journeys here, and some of us arrive practically ascended. The Old Souls. The Masters. But, I believe young souls can turn old quickly if we sit and learn our lessons. THAT is true Ascension to me.
I cannot tell you how many sessions I run these days, where people find themselves in a position of cutting away things that no longer serve, asking better of the people in our lives, and answering the stirrings of their soul. It is EXACTLY what the Universe is asking us to do at this stage of mankind's soulvolution. It is not about hating anyone because of how they behave, but recognizing we have changed so much and that that person's journey no longer resonates with us. We need to give ourselves permission to walk through "out with the old and in with the new". We also want to hold a space of asking the Universe to give that soul what it needs for healing. For I truly believe we can do that for others.
We also have to remember on this journey that this life is meant to be enJOYable! Finding the time to take that walk, sitting for tea with a friend, stopping to smell the roses. Thus, the need for my work to morph. I love my clients, but it has been time for some more variety, a bigger crowd, a different venue, etc. It truly helps keep it all, and me, fresh.
At the beginning of this year, I made an "In 2014 I will create..." list which ended up being 23 items at this stage (10 have shown up already!). Enter, "be careful what you wish for" because some of those items revolved around my work and the Universe has seen to drop some amazing things into my life with respect to those wishes. Within the last 72 hours I have found myself at the doorway to Television (stay tuned for the "Mountain Medium" coming this Fall to airwaves near you), and now hosting a 60-seat evening with Spirit which after two days of ticket sales is halfway sold out already! Plus I have "Pro-D" Day I am one of several guest speakers at, I have a retreat, and I have some travelling to do with this work. Phew!
Enter the "balance" card.
The days have flown by so quickly this year, that I really do have to honor the card I keep receiving. And, up until the past week or so, I really had this nice flow going of home and career, but this last little bit has been cray-cray and I continually get the "slow down" voice in my head. Enter incense, enter meditation, enter exercise between clients. That balance always keeps me present, and keeps me extremely grounded.
My home life is my "work" too (as it should be for all of us), but in order for any of us to be any good at what we do, we have to remember to honor ourselves, do what makes us feel like a kid again, and remember to laugh along this crazy trip called life!
So, love yourself first, take really good care of you, find that amazing balance between work and home, and walk into the flow of an amazing time. Where you are completely present, and enjoying some time not flying bye (and yes, I meant to spell it that way)!
Tuesday, 11 March 2014
Liars and Love
You know, it would seem that we are back in another bit of energetic mayhem, and this time it has NOTHING to do with Mercury Retrograde. I am sure we are receiving another energetic push of some sort. It feels like it is about "checking in", "checking out", and "owning it".
As I sat through a re-run of Oprah's Super Soul Sunday with Dr. Brene Brown, so many timely reminders came through. The biggest was this. Courage requires vulnerability. And, to me, vulnerability requires a willingness to own the tough stuff, regardless of how we think others might react.
So, I've decided to blog about liars. Liars lie to cover shame, blame, and the "not good enough"'s. We've all done it, and no one person is immune from it. We just have to make a conscientious effort to tell the truth, and we can tell the truth in a way that is loving and gentle. I don't believe it needs to be harsh.
However, there is an aspect of lying that really hurts. It is when we have created a space for someone to tell the truth, regardless of what it is, and they can't seem to. I truly feel this one is about guilt and shame.
If someone has worked hard to say, "Look. All I want from this moment forward is for you to come to me before I discover something" and that person doesn't, it is what truly hurts. I have been on the receiving end of that more times than I can count, and it really does hurt. I operate my life in a forthcoming nature and when it comes to close relationships in my life, I am nothing but fully disclosed so that people can truly see "me". Where I have been, where I am, and where I am going. I openly admit my flaws, wear them with pride, and own the best parts of me too!
But it is challenging to be in a relationship with ANYONE who cannot tell the truth. Telling the truth requires something else very important. Love of oneself. The gift of loving oneself cannot be given to anyone, by anyone, but yourself. Period. No amount of love from another can conquer it. No amount. For it will not be received by someone that cannot give it to themselves.
So, give yourself the gift of loving yourself, in all your imperfection, in all your outer beauty, in all your inner beauty. See the good in you! Be brave enough to be vulnerable. Vulnerability requires courage. Courage requires truth. There is ALWAYS beauty in truth. It means you love yourself enough to be honest, you love another person so much you have no desire but to be honest.
THAT is the moment, the only moment, when love can truly conquer all......................
Love
Overcomes
Virtually
Everything
It cannot conquer all if someone in your life is unwilling to go there. THAT we cannot change.
So..........husbands, wives, sisters, brothers, friends..............love yourself enough to walk in courage and vulnerability. To love oneself is to be wholehearted and giving your all. Including, telling the truth. Even though the truth can hurt, and it can be scary, how can you heal without it and the love you so rightly deserve? Yours!
As I sat through a re-run of Oprah's Super Soul Sunday with Dr. Brene Brown, so many timely reminders came through. The biggest was this. Courage requires vulnerability. And, to me, vulnerability requires a willingness to own the tough stuff, regardless of how we think others might react.
So, I've decided to blog about liars. Liars lie to cover shame, blame, and the "not good enough"'s. We've all done it, and no one person is immune from it. We just have to make a conscientious effort to tell the truth, and we can tell the truth in a way that is loving and gentle. I don't believe it needs to be harsh.
However, there is an aspect of lying that really hurts. It is when we have created a space for someone to tell the truth, regardless of what it is, and they can't seem to. I truly feel this one is about guilt and shame.
If someone has worked hard to say, "Look. All I want from this moment forward is for you to come to me before I discover something" and that person doesn't, it is what truly hurts. I have been on the receiving end of that more times than I can count, and it really does hurt. I operate my life in a forthcoming nature and when it comes to close relationships in my life, I am nothing but fully disclosed so that people can truly see "me". Where I have been, where I am, and where I am going. I openly admit my flaws, wear them with pride, and own the best parts of me too!
But it is challenging to be in a relationship with ANYONE who cannot tell the truth. Telling the truth requires something else very important. Love of oneself. The gift of loving oneself cannot be given to anyone, by anyone, but yourself. Period. No amount of love from another can conquer it. No amount. For it will not be received by someone that cannot give it to themselves.
So, give yourself the gift of loving yourself, in all your imperfection, in all your outer beauty, in all your inner beauty. See the good in you! Be brave enough to be vulnerable. Vulnerability requires courage. Courage requires truth. There is ALWAYS beauty in truth. It means you love yourself enough to be honest, you love another person so much you have no desire but to be honest.
THAT is the moment, the only moment, when love can truly conquer all......................
Love
Overcomes
Virtually
Everything
It cannot conquer all if someone in your life is unwilling to go there. THAT we cannot change.
So..........husbands, wives, sisters, brothers, friends..............love yourself enough to walk in courage and vulnerability. To love oneself is to be wholehearted and giving your all. Including, telling the truth. Even though the truth can hurt, and it can be scary, how can you heal without it and the love you so rightly deserve? Yours!
According to Dr. Brown, we should work on the following:
1. Let go of what people think.
2. Let go of perfectionism.
3. Let go of numbing and powerlessness.
4. Let go of scarcity and fear of the dark.
5. Let go of the need for certainty.
6. Let go of comparison.
7. Let go of exhaustion as a status symbol and productivity as self-worth.
8. Let go of anxiety as a lifestyle.
9. Let go of self-doubt and “supposed to.”
10. Let go of being cool and “always in control.”
- See more at: http://positivelybeautiful.areavoices.com/2013/03/21/wholehearted-living-with-brene-brown/#sthash.EpLlyzHE.dpuf
1. Let go of what people think.
2. Let go of perfectionism.
3. Let go of numbing and powerlessness.
4. Let go of scarcity and fear of the dark.
5. Let go of the need for certainty.
6. Let go of comparison.
7. Let go of exhaustion as a status symbol and productivity as self-worth.
8. Let go of anxiety as a lifestyle.
9. Let go of self-doubt and “supposed to.”
10. Let go of being cool and “always in control.”
- See more at: http://positivelybeautiful.areavoices.com/2013/03/21/wholehearted-living-with-brene-brown/#sthash.EpLlyzHE.dpuf
Tuesday, 25 February 2014
Happy Medium
I've said it before, and I will say it again. Life is FULL of challenges. It is how we weather them that matters most.
I lived such a life of imbalance, and I am so grateful I have come so far in the key of living a life of a Happy Medium. LOL!
You see, as like most of us, I had stories going on and states of denial being lived. I believe it to all be part of my journey that was set in writing almost 45 years ago. And, now with adult eyes, things look oh so much different, and I am grateful.
I have owned what I am able to do out loud and proud, and every day I make a conscious effort to learn, to grow, to love and be the best "me" possible. That includes loving my shadow side, for we truly are an "all" not a "one". I own my imperfections, and own my stuff, and it is such a peaceful, balanced way of living. I could NOT be happier.
If we are Spiritual Beings having a human experience, our task in life is to take all things to Spirit. Taking them to Spirit brings a higher perspective to any situation we find ourselves in. We are not to deny, but honor, the human part of the experience (sad, mad, angry, glad), and release it to Spirit to handle. For, in the end, they truly have us.
If you pause for a moment, close your eyes, take a deep breath and slowly let it out, it is in that space that true balance lives. Right at the center of us. Our Soul. Our link to Spirit. Our inner peace.
In that moment, we begin to feel something so calming that it needs to be recognized. It is us. The All. And it is a place of balance. Yin and Yang. Ebb and Flow. Home.
When I took myself to this place, the human in me recognized the Spirit within and my life was forever changed. I finally felt like I belonged Here, and knew what it was in the world of service I was supposed to honor.
Each and every one of us has that spot and has at least one act of service written into their Soul Chart. The sooner we honor it, the bigger life gets and it is never too late to honor what it is your heart truly learns for.
Enjoy being Here and ask the Universe, "How Shall I Serve?", then let it go and be open to seeing what it is they would have you know. The inspiration can pop in via a thought, repetitive words, or an image. Just be open.
Imagine what a peaceful world we would have if everyone gave themselves the gift of honoring the light deep within each of us. The place where everything, in every moment, is absolutely perfect! The place where there is a yearning of something one wishes to do.
And, one step bigger, what if we worked hard to see that in one another. We all have a story. Moments to embrace, moments to accept, a life to be cherished, and an act of service that aids in creating a better world. But we all have a light that deserves to shine!
Don't you think we all deserve it?
I do, and I wish it for you!
xo
I lived such a life of imbalance, and I am so grateful I have come so far in the key of living a life of a Happy Medium. LOL!
You see, as like most of us, I had stories going on and states of denial being lived. I believe it to all be part of my journey that was set in writing almost 45 years ago. And, now with adult eyes, things look oh so much different, and I am grateful.
I have owned what I am able to do out loud and proud, and every day I make a conscious effort to learn, to grow, to love and be the best "me" possible. That includes loving my shadow side, for we truly are an "all" not a "one". I own my imperfections, and own my stuff, and it is such a peaceful, balanced way of living. I could NOT be happier.
If we are Spiritual Beings having a human experience, our task in life is to take all things to Spirit. Taking them to Spirit brings a higher perspective to any situation we find ourselves in. We are not to deny, but honor, the human part of the experience (sad, mad, angry, glad), and release it to Spirit to handle. For, in the end, they truly have us.
If you pause for a moment, close your eyes, take a deep breath and slowly let it out, it is in that space that true balance lives. Right at the center of us. Our Soul. Our link to Spirit. Our inner peace.
In that moment, we begin to feel something so calming that it needs to be recognized. It is us. The All. And it is a place of balance. Yin and Yang. Ebb and Flow. Home.
When I took myself to this place, the human in me recognized the Spirit within and my life was forever changed. I finally felt like I belonged Here, and knew what it was in the world of service I was supposed to honor.
Each and every one of us has that spot and has at least one act of service written into their Soul Chart. The sooner we honor it, the bigger life gets and it is never too late to honor what it is your heart truly learns for.
Enjoy being Here and ask the Universe, "How Shall I Serve?", then let it go and be open to seeing what it is they would have you know. The inspiration can pop in via a thought, repetitive words, or an image. Just be open.
Imagine what a peaceful world we would have if everyone gave themselves the gift of honoring the light deep within each of us. The place where everything, in every moment, is absolutely perfect! The place where there is a yearning of something one wishes to do.
And, one step bigger, what if we worked hard to see that in one another. We all have a story. Moments to embrace, moments to accept, a life to be cherished, and an act of service that aids in creating a better world. But we all have a light that deserves to shine!
Don't you think we all deserve it?
I do, and I wish it for you!
xo
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