Tuesday, 11 March 2014

Liars and Love

You know, it would seem that we are back in another bit of energetic mayhem, and this time it has NOTHING to do with Mercury Retrograde.  I am sure we are receiving another energetic push of some sort.  It feels like it is about "checking in", "checking out", and "owning it".

As I sat through a re-run of Oprah's Super Soul Sunday with Dr. Brene Brown, so many timely reminders came through.  The biggest was this.  Courage requires vulnerability.  And, to me, vulnerability requires a willingness to own the tough stuff, regardless of how we think others might react.

So, I've decided to blog about liars.  Liars lie to cover shame, blame, and the "not good enough"'s.  We've all done it, and no one person is immune from it.  We just have to make a conscientious effort to tell the truth, and we can tell the truth in a way that is loving and gentle.  I don't believe it needs to be harsh.

However, there is an aspect of lying that really hurts.  It is when we have created a space for someone to tell the truth, regardless of what it is, and they can't seem to.  I truly feel this one is about guilt and shame.

If someone has worked hard to say, "Look.  All I want from this moment forward is for you to come to me before I discover something" and that person doesn't, it is what truly hurts.  I have been on the receiving end of that more times than I can count, and it really does hurt.  I operate my life in a forthcoming nature and when it comes to close relationships in my life, I am nothing but fully disclosed so that people can truly see "me".  Where I have been, where I am, and where I am going.  I openly admit my flaws, wear them with pride, and own the best parts of me too!

But it is challenging to be in a relationship with ANYONE who cannot tell the truth.  Telling the truth requires something else very important.  Love of oneself.  The gift of loving oneself cannot be given to anyone, by anyone, but yourself.  Period.  No amount of love from another can conquer it.  No amount.  For it will not be received by someone that cannot give it to themselves.

So, give yourself the gift of loving yourself, in all your imperfection, in all your outer beauty, in all your inner beauty.  See the good in you!  Be brave enough to be vulnerable.  Vulnerability requires courage.  Courage requires truth.  There is ALWAYS beauty in truth.  It means you love yourself enough to be honest, you  love another person so much you have no desire but to be honest.

THAT is the moment, the only moment, when love can truly conquer all......................


It cannot conquer all if someone in your life is unwilling to go there.  THAT we cannot change.

So..........husbands, wives, sisters, brothers, friends..............love yourself enough to walk in courage and vulnerability.  To love oneself is to be wholehearted and giving your all.  Including, telling the truth.  Even though the truth can hurt, and it can be scary, how can you heal without it and the love you so rightly deserve?  Yours!
According to Dr. Brown, we should work on the following:
1. Let go of what people think.
2. Let go of perfectionism.
3. Let go of numbing and powerlessness.
4. Let go of scarcity and fear of the dark.
5. Let go of the need for certainty.
6. Let go of comparison.
7. Let go of exhaustion as a status symbol and productivity as self-worth.
8. Let go of anxiety as a lifestyle.
9. Let go of self-doubt and “supposed to.”
10. Let go of being cool and “always in control.”
- See more at: http://positivelybeautiful.areavoices.com/2013/03/21/wholehearted-living-with-brene-brown/#sthash.EpLlyzHE.dpuf

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